Perfection?
Why do we look for perfection all around us when nothing in the world is perfect? I wonder about this often and I can never understand it. I am far from a perfect person, body, or anything at all. Everyone has their own problems that make them imperfect so why does this fact take precedence in todays society? I find it often when I seek to talk to someone they can blow me of without a second word simply because I am not a vision of perfection to them on first site. Frankly I guess I realize that most of these people I try to do this with I am simply testing my theory that most people are stuck up self indulgent morons. It takes a lot and means a lot often times when people are willing to overlook small defects in someone to actually get to know someone. I try to do this too where I will often try to get to know someone before I label them in my category of self indulgent moron but often times they put themselves there on their own.
I find myself wishing I could find a average woman that I can engage in conversation and become friends with before I seek to take that relationship to a more serious level. I have never been a guy that jumps into relationships for the sheer hell of it or just on the basis of “Oh that woman is sexy I want to date her.” I dont simply understand it but I think its because in a woman I seek someone who is very similar to me in most respects. I want to find someone who is intelligent, has a quick wit, and will let me know when I do something stupid. And by the stupid thing I mean when I do it for real and not under the assumtion most women make that men do everything stupidly and for no reason. I think I am a competent and very intelligent young man and I dont think that I should have to deal with witless people around me. Most of my friends I understand on one level or another why they do things and I hope that they have that understanding of me too.
Why is it when men have the view that it is good to be friends with someone you want a serious relationship with a bad thing? I dont get it. If you are looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with you should be friends on one level or another with your soon to be/current partner before you ever choose to become married and I think this is why most relationships fail. A lot of people get married before they ever get past the 3-4 beginning phase of “oooo your so cute.” stage of the relationship. I think that to truly know whether your relationship will withstand the test of time has to do with the compromise, understanding and recovery time behind your fights after the initial “butterflies in my stomach” stage of the relationship.
Maybe thats the difference….I would like to have that serious relationship in my life and know that eventually it could lead to marriage and a family, where a lot of people dont know what they want at my age or at least havent thought about it yet. Anyways feel free to leave your comments and let me know whether its so wrong that I think this way or if I am just being to rough on myself and others.
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